Hoarding [NOT 1/4/23]

Everyone seems to have a hoarding habit. My elderly mom hoards jars and plastic containers. My parents basement is full of them… recently I had to throw a bunch for recycling against my mom’s objections as she had enough containers to stock a supermarket.

It turns out that I am not much better… I hoard boxes (mostly model kits) and emails as I rarely delete any correspondence because you never know… the IT/IS guys hate me because my email inbox is full and cluttered (for the record, I do read emails.)

Hoard or not? Or whatever else is on your mind…

avataravataravataravataravataravataravataravataravataravataravataravataravatar

26 Comments

  1. Mrs Butcher hoards all kinds of crap. We still have fabric swatches from a job she used to have 20 years ago. They will only get thrown out when she dies.
    Like my mother, I am a serial trasher. I throw shit out all the time and then hate myself for needing it later.

    • I always wondered if people who get rid of stuff that they don’t need in the moment later feel regret. Most people I know are like “If I need something in the future, I will buy it again or borrow it from a friend.” They never admit to feeling regret but I knew that must be a lie they tell themselves.

      • I rarely regret it. Most things I’ve gotten rid of can be easily replaced if necessary. If I’m only going to use something once every five or ten years the space is more valuable to be than the item. I’d get rid of even more stuff but I don’t know what to do with the items. Goodwill and consignment shops are full of stuff nobody wants and it ends up in landfills anyway. I’m going to have to figure it out, I don’t want to leave a bunch of stuff behind for my daughter to have to deal with.

        • I buy many kits because many are limited run and who knows when the next time they’re going to come out with that item I want to build. The problem is I buy them faster than I can build them.

  2. I get rid of everything. One of my early summer jobs was working for an Estate Sale company. I saw the things that people treasured thrown out or sold for pennies by their families when they were gone. Very little has the sentimental value you think it does. It was a good lesson to learn.
    I also hate clutter. I need my environment to be clean and well organized. The only thing I keep in large supply is books. And when that got to be too much I got a Kindle.

    • Everything sentimental to my mom could probably fit in 3 banker’s boxes. She too does not keep stuff.

      My dad is the opposite, and I’ve been telling him for about 3 years that he needs to start going through shit while he’s mentally still here because once he dies I’m not going to know what was important to him and no I’m not keeping 4 turkey roasting pans etc. He does not like that conversation. But also? Probably everything is going to a garage sale or goodwill because he’s got so much that I cannot keep 99% of it in my small house.

    • That part I understand. What a person values is another’s trash. I watched my friends go thru their parents junk and wiped out 95% of it. The only thing they kept were photos.

      I figure when I go I want my stuff piled on my corpse and lit as a Viking funeral.

  3. My grandparents hoarded somewhat badly – like there was definitely hoarding tendencies then as they started having dementia issues it got worse. Both my dad and his sister are also bad about it.

    I think there’s a couple of reasons people hoard. There’s that flavor of “oh shit I don’t have money, so I better save that thing that’s sort of busted/not used anymore because I replaced it” where people just stash shit away. My family runs into that category. It’s also why if my dad sees something on a really good clearance price and he already has one, sometimes he’ll buy another. He doesn’t need it. He might never need it. Rationally, the person should not spend money on that thing they don’t need, but the emotional tie to how they think about money and resources overrides that.

    I was super bad with makeup. I’ve purged so much of it (after not using it for so long during covid, I was like this should have gone bad by now and if it hasn’t….that’s weird too). And the embarrassment of how much money I had spent on all that makeup? Holy fuck was that enlightening. I am back to only replacing things, not buying the cool new shit.

  4. I’m fairly unsentimental and loathe clutter. Although it do have old china, books, figures, furniture, etc. from family, some from the 1800s. There are some nifty albums of relatives long forgotten in their civil war uniforms. And a set of cabriole style chairs that no one can sit on, unless you weigh like 80 pounds or less. They are stored in the basement.

  5. I’m a hoarder of clothes. I still have a pair of skinny jeans that I bought as a teen from Guess that was a size too small but on mega discount for $20. I’ve never worn them. My mom refused to buy me have “designer” clothes so these were a big deal and I was using my own money. I didn’t realize at the time that generally you don’t grow smaller and dieting doesn’t actually work. Never having tried to lose weight and also being bombarded with diet culture made me think it would be easy.

    Whenever one of our suitcases breaks, I’m secretly happy because it becomes another place to store all my unused clothes. 😂 Typing this confession makes me realize how crazy I am. I also hoard broken suitcases.

    • I have a friend who is a clothes nut and hoards upscale fashion. We tease him about his obsession. He rarely wears most of it.

      It is fortunate for me that we are similar sizes cause I have some rather nice clothes, but nowhere to go.

      • I wish I had upscale fashion items. Sadly I never developed a sense of style. Is that shit innate or learned? I feel like a bit of both. My mom and my sister are very fashionable. I don’t mean they wear designer clothes. They just have style and always look great.

        The stuff I have horded are from my past walks of life. Student life, office life, night life, sporting life, casual life, pregnancy life etc. Currently, mom life is all I wear which mean leggings, a nursing tank top and cropped sweater for easy access.

        • Neither did I. I’m a simple dresser. Usually jeans and a buttoned up shirt. I tried to avoid the stereotypical engineer uniform of white shirt and khakis… sort of.

          No pocket protector though.

  6. I’m not a hoarder but I’m lazy.  If I could afford a professional organizer, I’d happily pay $75 an hour or whatever for them to ruthlessly cull my stuff and recycle and donate as much as possible.

Leave a Reply