Friends! Weekly complaint post!
Complaint about anything annoying you. Dump it out right here and we’ll commiserate and validate.
I had conniving coworkers throw me under a bus twice already this week. So that’s been fun. And my applications I support have crashed repeatedly and no one knows why yet.
And the icing on the cake? I have a fucking ovarian cyst that just needs to hurry up and rupture already.
Um…don’t you have to have those cysts removed? I’ve heard they are quite painful. So, it most assuredly sucks to be you.
My internet service (Verizon) is unstable, which means that I get kicked out of my company VPN roughly once every 10 minutes. It is incredibly fucking aggravating. I need to be able to bring my work computer home, but the company still doesn’t allow that, so my boss is trying to figure out how we can swing a laptop for me. But, until then I will be screaming into the void every time the black screen of death appears. Which means I scream a lot.
I mean it’s not like a big one that needs surgery. It just needs to hurry up and rupture already so I can cease the dull pain with the intermittent stabby stab stab pains.
So a rupture is actually a good outcome? No risk of infection?
I mean anything’s possible with bodies, so I guess there’s a chance.
I’ve had them in the past, it just escalates to a ratcheting screwdriver twisting around feeling and then once they burst there’s some tenderness for a few days. If I get a fever I’ll call the obgyn.
My mom had a golf ball sized cyst for years before they were finally like “oh okay, we’ll operate on it now.” Because doctors don’t respect women’s health.
Also there’s no elective surgeries right now so pretty sure I couldn’t get it removed even if I wanted a surgery.
Well that fucking sucks.
This morning when Fanny and I left the house for our walk I noticed a plastic bag at the edge of our yard. When I went over to it I saw that someone had cleaned up their dog (presumably) poop and left the bag behind for me to deal with. My garbage can is twenty feet away and visible on the side of the house, walk over and drop it in for fucks sake!
Too bad you don’t know who it was. Then you could have dropped it at their door along with an m80.
If I knew I’d take to their house, ring the bell, and hand it to them. 🤬
Remind me to tell you about the time a young couple left their baby’s shit filled diaper at the host station when their table was ready.
AHHHH NOOOO
Did you ever read Behid Closed Ovens on Jezebel, then for some reason it migrated over to Wonkette (? It had nothing to do with politics?) The writer/compiler of anecdotes from the restaurant world could be very funny but he was very prickly. It was like Bizarro Jezebel. Each post used to get hundreds of comments and the writer was the most active commenter of all, to tell us how wrong and “fucking idiotic” we were. Now it’s just the opposite, of course. Hardly anyone comments and I don’t think a writer has read a comment since the Obama administration.
Anyway, restaurant patrons and their precious offspring’s diapers came up constantly.
Actually I did read that all the time. So if you were a regular reader you would have probably seen that particular anecdote of mine. In fact it was post right before he made his declaration of “no more poop stories. “
Is BCO still going on wonkette?? When groupthink was in its death throes, we were reminiscing, and we talked about BCO and pinkham (that prickly author). He had been a groupthink commenter under the name ubertrout. He was a real ass. He was a big factor in the cliquey phase of GT where the self declared cool kids were really mean to everyone who didn’t worship them.
What????
There’s a reason why I don’t work in the restaurant business anymore and it pretty much boils down to I didn’t want to be standing in front of a judge, saying, “…and that’s when I killed him, Your Honor.”
FUCKING RUDE OF THEM
My stomach is all messed up again. I can’t eat anything without problems. I’m sick of feeling sick
That sucks. I’m assuming you’ve seen a doctor, have they ruled out gall stones?
I haven’t seen a doctor for it yet. It’s been intermittently making my life hell for a month now. I have many food intolerances and allergies, so I’m used to dealing with a lot of digestive problems. But the past week or so has just been ugh
That royally sucks. Are you able to have liquids without much pain or is your body revolting on anything at this point?
I’m fine with liquids but all food this week, no matter how mild, is giving me problems…
I am new to wrapping Christmas presents on account of the fact that I have been a loner who spent most of my adult life away from anyone I’d wrap presents for so I still wrap presents the same way I wrapped them all by myself when I was a young child. I’m cool with that…they were never perfect but I wasn’t a dumb kid so I feel the same sense of pride I used to feel now that they’re all wrapped. But there is one thing about it that really GRINDS MY GEARS!
IDK what out-of-registration flexographic printing companies are printing the wrapping paper these days but the quality of the printing alone should be a huge money saver for Wrapping Paper Inc. or whatever fucking company sells the shit is to keep printing a decent sized roll FFS!
I know what you’re about to say. “myo, everything seems bigger and much prettier when you’re 5 years old but then you grow up and realise how small everything was like the time you re-visited the elementary school you went to and couldn’t believe how small the gym was.”
IT’S NOT LIKE THAT. I know the printing industry and if I remember ANYTHING, it’s numbers. I know how many presents I was able to wrap with one wrapping paper roll then, with size taken into consideration, and I know how FEW I am able to wrap now. Don’t @ me with your bullshit!
We need to stand up to Wrapping Paper Inc. and all of its sub-par printing companies with which they have contracts.
Join me, friends. Let’s make Christmas gift-wrapping Great Again!
@Myopicprophet, you need a spreadsheet…
It’s not just you and it’s not just wrapping paper. Food manufacturers have been pulling this shit for years. Same with TP. Oh, but people will say, “what about double and triple rolls?” The TP people have been making the rolls narrower over the years. Any given roll today has a good inch of clearance on either side of the holder.
You’re missing out on one of the great joys of the Christmas season. I unilaterally declared a moratorium on my giving or receiving physical Christmas presents, because I receive crap that I don’t need nor particularly want, and I was forced to do the same. Then, to make my life worse, I often had to haul this back to our small-ish apartment via a bus/train/combo. Oh no. I get to destination and my Christmas gift is I either make a huge dinner or, if people want, we all go to a restaurant they choose and I pick up the tab.
But when I WAS wrapping Christmas presents I’d go to this very strange junk store, several rungs below a dollar store, where they sold discards. There I’d find rolls and rolls of botched print jobs. My best year was when I found a pattern that was rows and rows of the same Santa face. It was almost Warhol-esque to begin with. Then, it was printed 4-color offset, and none of the plates quite matched during the process, so each face had four layers that created this vibratory, almost hallucinogenic effect. I should have bought out the entire supply.
I used to spend a little effort getting Christmas cards that were off in some way. One year, not the same year, I found a couple of boxes featuring a mawkish manger scene with O Come Let Us Adore Him written in garish gold script above. But the way that the artist portrayed the human figures it was like they were weren’t looking at the Baby Jesus but instead were focusing their attention on an animal nearby, I think a sheep or maybe even a deer? Oh well, there’s a little zoolatry in all of us, I figured.
I have no complaints, but I feel for those of you who do. I’d like the coronavirus to be over, but I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t respond to my complaints, so…
I’m sick of child welfare social workers thinking that they know what social workers who work in mental health do. Yes, we are all social workers, but our jobs are very different. You may have taken one or two mental health courses in grad school, but that doesn’t make you an expert on mental health. I don’t pretend to know the ins and outs of child welfare, so don’t pretend you know the ins and outs of mental health, medication, and diagnosis. This shit is serious and you can’t just give it your best guess.
This rant coming to you after a CSW decided to tell the school district that one of my clients has a certain highly stigmatized diagnosis before an assessment had even been done. Turns out the kid meets 1 criteria for the diagnosis. You need at least 4 to get the diagnosis. Ugh.
Grrrrr! I’m saying this with sympathy for you because my stepmother briefly studied social work as an undergrad but never went on to further study or certification. Yet she had these “psychology 101” canned spiels that were often simplistic or inaccurate that she would lecture us step kids with (for example, momsplaining “passive aggressive” and then twisting it greatly to apply to some not-even tangential grievance against us in that situation).
We had to basically contain our looks of “whatever, you didn’t even finish your training, glorified armchair psychologist”.
It’s time to start figuring out where we’re going to send lildamnhero to preschool in the fall. He was supposed to start this year, but we backed out because of covid. The annoying thing is that I already went through the headsplitting process of finding a preschool that seemed good, with a reasonable enough tuition… And then we moved. So now I get to start again. During the pandemic. So I can’t even ask to go tour these schools now. Ugh. And I can say from the experience last year – the tours are telling. In several cases, the website was awesome, the emails exchanged with the owner were awesome, and then we toured…
I’m honestly debating just sending him to the place we had scoped out near our old house. It’s 25 minutes away now, which isn’t absurd… But it would add up.
You could just put him on a leash in the back yard.
@Butcherbakertoiletrymaker we are sitting here giggling like old fools. You are on a roll, my friend. @BigDamnHeroes, I hear you. Back in the dark ages when my son was small we only had church preschools to chose from…that added a bit to the complexity of the choice.
My daughter turned out OK. I did give her lots of squeaky toys though.
I mean, a leash in the backyard is a solid proposition. Would certainly save us a lot of money.
Be sure to have a doghouse for him to get out of the elements. Otherwise you’re just being cruel.
Ngl….
My friends & cousins and I used to play in/on the doghouse, sometimes, when we were little.
Wasn’t much room, once you had a couple kids in there, if the dog decided to come in, too…
But it WAS pretty fun😉😆🤣💖
When I was a kid I had a habit of just quietly wandering off. I always tried my best to not be noticed in that family so disappearing for several hours was always my go-to strategy. Anyway, when I was probably 4 or 5 years old, my mother couldn’t find me and went into full panic mode. She, my father and brother went all over the farm and I think my brother even went into the forest behind our farm. There was a defunct well in one of the pastures that my mother was constantly convinced I would wind up falling into and meeting my doom.
So, at some point, I think my father noticed that the dog was standing outside his doghouse, staring into the doghouse, and looking kind of annoyed. My father looked in the doghouse and found me fast asleep.
Aw. That’s simultaneously sad and sweet.
Just make sure to have a large dog to help socialize and teach your child stuff.
Signed,
I distinctly remember my dad leaving me home alone with the dog when I was 7 and being told “you’ll be fine, just listen to (dog’s name).”
(why yes, having an alcoholic parent meant there were some questionable choices made in the household)
Oh noooo
The dog was great at taking care of me. Just saying.
When I was younger (like age 5 and up) my mom would have the dog watch me from the front door when I was outside playing with friends. If anyone besides my friends was nearby the dog started barking to get her attention.
Honestly that dog was exploited labor now that I think on it. Or he thought I was his puppy.
A very good dog.
Alcoholism: the gift that just keeps giving.
OK, then. Now I’m cleaning up after that spit take.
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I’m 4 hours from home for next several days building a deck in 20-30 degree weather. Fucking gets old quick.
I hope you’re getting combat pay for that job.
He helped me renovate my house when contractors failed. I owe him everything & will do anything for him but this is definitely a challenge
He’s working with you then on the deck?
Oh yeah, I could not build a massive deck like this without him. I’m only a construction person because of him.
Ah well in that case I’m guessing it makes the load a little lighter.
I respect that
ive been having some relationship troubles
and i mean troubles in the sense of the IRA…which is to say its all blown up and we now have irreconcileable differences (and fwiw the lions share of the blame for that lies with me…its sucks but ive made my peace with that)
but thats nothing new and not worth complaining about
these last few weeks tho…things have taken a turn for the wtf is going on here now?
even a simple hello is enough to piss the missus off…and most of the time soon as i get home both the missus and daughter fuck off upstairs….i go upstairs…they go downstairs
apparently im sposed to work all day pay all the bills do the cooking and chores for people who wont even hello me now….fuck that shit
i dont know what this game is…but farscy aint playing it
im just feeding meself now…cleaning whatever mess ive made and hoping i get to move out soon
being alone sounds much nicer than being unwelcome
@Farscythe, sending you virtual hugs and support. #TeamFarscy all day long. (PS – I’ve been told creating FYCE posts is great for cheering up – and cooking for one is a subject that many folks would appreciate.)
thanks for that 🙂
and lol…ill keep the fyce in mind tho at mo im not exactly cooking…living off cans of soup when im not missing meals entirely…not really got much of an appetite for the time being
Mine’s more of a whine/whinge, than a complaint, really, but i’m just feeling SUPER discombobulated lately.
I’m REALLY grateful that we Paraprofessionals get to keep working during distance-learning, and that we’re not laid off, or losing out jobs!!!
But as someone who has to SERIOUSLY fight off the struggle-monkeys, if my schedule goes to hell, I feel like a damn TRAINWRECK allovertheplace, lately.🙃
I’m *either* super distracted and unable to settle down & focus, OR I’m completely in a state of focus/flow, and losing a couple HOURS, thinking it was maaaaybe 45 minutes or so😖
Add in the lack of appetite from my ADHD med, a tired spell at about 6 pm, which then leads to WIDE awake from midnight-2+ am, annnnnnd I’m not getting enough sleep, AND/or hitting spikes/lows on my blood sugars😕
I mostly just need to figure out a way to settle in to SOME kind of schedule…. buuuut, with all the uncertainty, AND without scheduled hours at the Grocery Store, yet, I feel like a HOT mess, y’all!!!
Have you considered laying off the cocaine?
Hold on now, let’s not get hasty.
It’s not the cocaine, it’s the amphetamines… or the… Lisdexamfetamine, anyway…😉
And the goofiest thing is, that without it, I’m WORSE!🥺😖😱
I *still* don’t understand all the why’s & how’s of it, but *somehow* the meth-family drugs slow DOWN our (ADHD) brains, and allow the other, slower, parts of our systems to catch up…
Where for Neurotypical folks, it’s evidently the exact opposite, brain-wise, on that sort of medication/chemical?
It’s the *rest* of the executive-function stuff that creates all the armies of struggle-monkeys…
And *building* new systems to manage time/schedules/etc., from scratch is ALWAYS the hard part… at least here🙃
I can come up with ALL sorts of better & more efficient systems & processes, if i can jump off of/start with something that’s even *halfway* fleshed-out…
it’s just cutting down the overwhelming amount of *ideas!* and *possibilities!*, if it’s gotta be started from scratch out of my own noggin😕🙃
That was how I flunked out of my English/Writing class, the first time I went to college… we were supposed to research something we found interesting, and write a paper about it….
The week the paper was due, I was just getting to the REALLY interesting parts of the research, after my first thirty-bajillion topics led me down twice as many rabbit-holes, once I finally learned how to look things up in the University’s online card-catalog, by teaching myself basic Boolean…
🙃
@EmmerdoesNOTrepresentme ADHD is so weird, isn’t it? My husband is medicated for it too, and he’s such a struggle bus when he forgets his meds. I remember reading up a bunch on how stimulant meds help it, but that was probably over a decade ago and I don’t remember anymore, and don’t feel like diving deep into it at the moment. I bet there’s a video about it on How to ADHD. Do you watch her youtube channel? Because if you don’t, you should. She’s adorable and also has some useful tips.
Oh hey, I googled it and here’s her video on why it works.
This was an AWESOME video, and thanks for sharing it!😁💖
And yes, 100%!!! To the “ADHD is so weird!”😉
Isn’t she great? I think she’s such a good advocate. It was light on the biology unfortunately, but still a good video.
My whine is my ‘friend’ mask shamed me over the weekend, I knew she socialized with people over T-giving, so when we went to the store together I felt wearing a mask was the way to go and she made me feel like I was insulting her and being ridiculous. So, no more contact with her. All week everytime I felt the least bit off I panicked. She’s not worth it.
Ugh, there’s no place for that sort of shitty attitude. Definitely don’t keep seeing her.
Masks do more to protect other people from the wearer, than they do to protect the wearer from other people (although, I think there have been studies showing it does that too). If this person is giving you a hard time about a minor inconvenience you are willingly undergoing that protects both of you, that person isn’t a friend. I’m sorry you had to deal with that, as if there isn’t enough bullshit in the world already…
<SIGH>
Just to be clear – and to lessen my anxiety – I’m referring to clients, not anyone on this site.
No judging from me.
I had to walk some users through how to click a goddamned link in our sales tool yesterday.
Nothing like an ID10T error.